Is life driving you mental???

It is world mental health day and I’m not having a good day. I have been through a lot in my life and life constantly seems to send me constant obstructions I have to find my way around and hurdles to jump.

some days I can manage the hurdles and other I don’t have the energy to climb over them never mind jump and sometimes I just want to crawl under them and hide from them. I know hiding from them gets me nowhere and usually you come to one you can’t jump over, climb over and can’t hide under either.

Some people think I am so brave and an inspiration but they don’t see me when I’m crying they only see me when I put my face on my hair done and my fancy clothes and to the world my life is wonderful. They don’t see the pain I experience they don’t know what’s going on in my head neither do I sometimes to be honest or know about the hurdles I keep trying to climb over but just keep failing and don’t have the energy to even try anymore.

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The supermum that gets their kids to school, homework done, after school activities, birthday parties, outings, holidays, clothes, toys for Xmas and birthdays. Being a mum is a full time job and also very expensive so how do I afford it I don’t I borrow from credit cards, loans whatever to give my kids the life they deserve one of my hurdles. Coping with a job and kids on your own, can’t get a babysitter, child throws up as you walk out the door, trips cuts her knee, spills milk down the front of their uniform, dog escapes out of the house and runs after neighbours dog all seems funny I know but it’s the impact kids late for school, im late for work. This is stress, then one of them forgets their lunch, one hasn’t got her note, one has 2 different socks, one has her trainers on instead of her school shoes? Am I a bad mum????

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I try my best to get everything right but doesn’t always happen my brain has that much to remember sometimes things slip so I beat myself up about it now no im human and not a super woman.

So the job yeah working in an office, clocking in spending an hour of my life or more depending on how many broken down cars and accidents there have been that morning or evening, am I going to be late for work if so how and when do I make up the time, will I get into trouble, on way home will I get to the nursery or school on time if not who will collect them, the kids will be upset the school will think I’m a bad mum, how do you do it all? I don’t know I still haven’t figured it out.

5888E7F6-C7D1-4912-804F-9CA71E970D41So the job wasn’t working, kids sick who will collect them and look after them? Me of course the school has had to close because of snow or no electricity who has to collect them? Me? So how do you manage a job and kids on your own I had no idea. Then I decided although I couldn’t afford to leave my job this was my opportunity to do what I was passionate about and have a flexible job that would work round my kids. Everyone always told me as your kids grow up they need you less, apparently this was all lies all the mums now tell me, as they get older there is the drop off and pick up at different times drop off and collection at after

 

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school activities I can’t afford but kids love so we have no food or electricity for a few days but at least they get to do what they love only joking not quite there yet. But as they grow up they have homework and who helps with that me of course I have to make sure they are progressing well in school that they are well mentally and physically, that they attend all activities more money I know have the right uniform more money have to have birthday parties otherwise they get left out of things.

So what do I do??? Lie down and give in to it all? No I can’t I have to cope, I have to provide for my kids and give them the life they deserve, I have to set up my own business and I have to make it work.

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Even when you have all this crap going on with money worries, no job, lonely, stressed you do it because you love your kids you pull yourself out of bed feed them dress them, leave them to school and try to earn a living someday. It’s so hard, I’m not looking for sympathy there are people are worse off than me who are amazing and inspirational people coping wit sick kids or physical illnesses and that is why I want to help them live happier and healthier lives and that is why I started working for Isagenix to help people live healthier lives and clear out all of the toxins that are causing all of these deadly diseases and why I started this blog and set up Moodfit to help people to learn how to eat properly, stop using food as a way of coping with our emotions and situations in our lives I’ve done it my whole life from an eating disorder which started in my early teens

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I used food as a way to deal with my homelife and my low self confidence and hatred for myself. I starved myself and when stressed I got really thin so when I got married and we started trying for kids it didn’t happen as I thought after some treatment to help us conceive I had a miscarriage and a few months later got pregnant with Mya which I had been told was very unlikely to ever happen so after nearly 2 years of waiting for Mya I didn’t want the same to happen with baby number 2 unfortunately it was worse this time the first treatment didn’t work so I then had to object myself everyday with harmone injections have invasive scans then head to work to do a days work then collect Mya then tea and all my other duties. This went on for 2 years I was a mess so exhausted and depressed, everywhere I went there were babies and pregnant women I was consumed with this and I disappeared. I couldn’t laugh, or smile life was so hard. So after a miscarriage again we went for IVF thinking this would be the end of the journey with a happy ending this did not happen we went through it and it didn’t happen, I accepted it and went back to living having fun,’put on weight, exercises less, had a few drinks you get the idea then the little miracle happened and I fell pregnant with Cara. So I had lots of hurdles but I never gave up, my fertility problems were unexplained but I believe it was my lifestyle while i thought I was healthy I had low body fat, a low carb diet, I ran and was depressed and stressed this is not the right environment for a baby to be conceived.

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Sk j had my 2 babies and a good job so everything was perfect right? So I thought but life was hard having went through what we did and life was stressful working and bringing up 2 kids and eventually our marriage ended and I was left a single mom of 2 kids. This was the hardest thing I went through I thought the fertility treatment was hard but this was worse. What had I done wrong? Clearly I thought it was all my fault but there are two people in a marriage so take step to make or break a marriage. I’m not going into the details but it took me a long time to cope with being on my own, the financial responsibility, having to do everything from work to collecting and leaving kids, homework’s everything but I did it it’s been damn hard dealing with all of the ups and downs of a marriage breakdown but I have survived. I am a survivor and I want to let others know you can do it, there are ways to fix things and get support.

All of the things that have happened I have linked back to one thing exercise and nutrition and that is why I set up my Moodfit programme. I believe my issues throughout my life were affected by my eating habits and exercise which has a huge impact on depression. So yes I do suffer from depression and I now use food in a good way to help give me energy, mental clarity and ability to deal with stress. I don’t want to be skinny anymore I thought this made me happy it doesn’t I need to look after my body be #strongnotskinny and that why I changed my diet to include more food to help with my depression and exercises that are gentler on the body and mind and make me stronger not weaker.

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If you want more info on how to change your life and not let depression take it over then contact me or learn more about my diet online at Moodfit.co.uk or book an appointment with me on Facebook moodycowmum

If you can get your body and mind strong you can deal with anything, don’t let depression control your life, take your life back.

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Curry Friday

Fridays have to be a curry day, my kids are obsessed with rice at the minute so made my yummy curry.

I love this recipe I reworked from a gordan Ramsay recipe just made it healthier. You can have some chicken or if you want to go veggie you can use #chickpeas or #lentils or just your fav veg and still yummy.

If putting meat in it’s better to marinate overnight.

Marinate:

Cut the chicken breasts into chunks

Add 2 cloves of garlic (peeled and diced)

2 cm of ginger peeled and diced

1/2 tsp of sea salt

1/2 tsp chilli 🌶 powder

1/2 tsp garam masala

1 1/2 tbsp lemon juice 🍋

75ml Greek natural yogurt

Mix together in a bowl, cover in a box and place in a container overnight. If making on the day just marinate then add to the saucepan and add the rest of the ingredients.

1 tsp Garam masala

1 tsp ground cumin

1 tbsp coconut oil

2 garlic cloves peeled and crushed

2 cm ginger peeled and grated

1tsp coriander

1 tsp ground turmeric

1 tsp chilli 🌶 powder

275ml tomato purée

1 tbsp lemon juice

100ml Greek natural yogurt or use coconut milk

If you don’t have fresh ginger or garlic you can use powder instead and if there are any allergies like diary you can replace the yogurt for coconut 🥥 milk.

This is a healthy spicy curry that is so yum it’s the recipe I always use so easy to make.

For a little extra protein if you’re just having veg which is what I had tonight I love adding #cashewnuts and if too hot a dollop of natural yogurt, love to add a bit of #mangochutney and some poppedoms. If you want a sweet curry add some #mangochutney or mango chunks or mango juice, great for kids.

In terms of rice I love #basmati rice or #wholegrainrice. A little tip is for one cup of rice add two cups of water then you get perfect rice not soggy and stuck together.

Weight loss tips:

Don’t overdo your portion pick a smaller bowl Try to cut out chips and naam breads

Replace cream with low fat natural yogurts

#healthy #nutrition #curry #veggiecurry #chickencurry #chickpeacurry #lowfat #diet #loseweight #moodfit.co.uk #moodfitdiet #kideloveit

Cleansing and detoxing your gut

You never realise that everywhere around us, in our food and in our packaging are toxins which are all going into our bodies. Without detoxing them from our bodies they will build on our bodies damaging our cells and leading to disease.

So although these days are so hard you feel amazing afterwards, are up to 4lbs lighter your body will have less toxins in it and your gut will work so much better effecting all of the processes in our bodies, so these days are worth it and not part of a weekly diet for me.

#guthealth #cleanseforlife #colonicirrigation #detox #cleanse #health #healthy #nutrition #fasting #gethealthy #boostenergy

Autumn winter fashion must haves

I love fashion and as I have low confidence clothes has always been a part of my identity and helped to build my confidence.

Just by putting on nice clothes and doing my hair and makeup I feel like a different person.

Now I’ll admit I love my labels but sometimes your finances don’t always stretch so I have included some amazing pieces to my website that won’t break the bank and here are a few of my favourites for this autumn winter season.

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From glam to casual this cardigan will work with jeans, dresses and more. Cardigan and junky jumpers are a must with pastels and strong autumn colours like the yellow mustard colour to your beige and whites great with jeans or glam trousers for the evening look.

Love this style of cardigan casual and comfy loving the khaki colour but also the brown and the petrol blue colour, love the strong colours for this season.

I love jumper dresses especially with tall boots very glam and as always love my floral dresses and ankle boots.

Then the glam events that come at Xmas this is an amazing showstopper.

#fashionista #autumn #winter #dresses #jumpers #cardigans #coats #boots #singlemom

Salted caramel balls

I love love love protein balls they are so filling, healthy and yummy. Filled with lots of protein and omega 3 and only natural sugars amazing little snacks for kids or anyone who needs a little sugar hit the natural way.

Salted Caramel protein balls

Ingredients:

2 weetabix I love #nutribix in coconut 🥥

1/2 cup oats

1tsp salted caramel extract

1 scoop of #vanilla protein powder

1/2 cup nut butter I love the #pecan nut butter

1/2 cup pecans

1/2 cups walnuts

2 tbsp maple 🍁 syrup

2 tbsp desiccated #coconut

I cup dates

Prep

1. Put all ingredients into a mixer and blend.

Put them in a bit at a time, scrape down the side of the mixer.

2. When all ingredients mixed up take the mix out and place in a bowl. Then roll into balls and out on a tray.

3. You can cover them in lots of different things but to coat in #darkchoc or #saltedcaramel chocolate then roll in desiccated coconut or crushed nuts.

I also made some #chai protein balls.

Ingredients:

1 1/2 cups oats

2 tablespoons of chai powder

2 tbsp almond butter

1/4 cup maple syrup

1 tsp cinnamon

1/4 tsp grates nutmeg

1/4 tsp salt

1/2 tsp ginger

1/3 cup cocoa or choc protein powder

1tbsp chai seeds

Prep:

1. Place everything in a blender to mix.

2. Take out and place in a bowl, roll into balls then roll in chai seeds.

I also made some yummy choc chip cookies which were very gooey and kids loved them nearly as much as the chocolate covered salted caramel protein balls.

Choc chip cookies

Ingredients:

1 can of chickpeas darkness and dried

3/4 cup of nut butter

1/4 cup of honey

1 tsp baking powder

1/2 cup chopped choc bits

2 scoops of choc protein powder

Prep:

1. Mix in a processor, then roll into balls and then push flat on the baking tray.

2. Bake in a preheated oven at 180* for a p mins

#healthy #healthyeating #healthycookies #healthysnacks #nutrition #protein #omega3 #nuts #singlemom #singlemoms #fitmmoms #workingmums #kidsloveit #tastytreats

Rock hard core workout

Want a rock hard core so you can fit into amazing dresses, feel good on the beach or when going to the swimming pool with the kids or to get into those skinny jeans again.

No more excuses 😡

I don’t have time

I’ve had two kids this isn’t possible

It’s too hard it’s not for me etc

These exercises take 5 mins a day and if you do everyday you will see amazing results within 21 days.

Checkout out my YouTube channel Moodfit for food and exercise videos.

Remember 20% of your body shape is down to exercise the 80% is down to diet so if you don’t change your diet then you will not see the results.

Change those habits

1. Never skip breakfast.

2. Avoid processed foods full of sugar, salt and fat.

3. Eat at least 3 portions of fruit a day.

4. Get at least 8 hours sleep.

5. Drink at least 8 glasses of water a day.

6. Have protein and dairy for breakfast.

7. Eat 6 small meals a day.

8. Fill up on low GI carbs at lunch.

9. Have a protein meal in the evening.

10. Avoid alcohol and caffeine where possible.

11. Avoid shop bought dressings and sauces healthier and tastier to make your own and surprisingly quick to make.

12. Instead of getting a takeout try and make your own there are lots of recipes for low fat tasty takeaway meals and a lot cheaper as well as healthier.

Follow these simple rules to help with a healthier body and mind. Then look at your diet and swap bad foods for natural foods like lots of veg especially green, lean meats like chicken and turkey, oily fish once a week, omega 3 everyday found in nuts and 🥑 and grains and beans rather than pasta and bread.

#diet #healthy #rockhardcore #nutrition #moodfit #singlemom #fitmom #fitmoms #yummyfood #changehabits #core #coreworkouts #fit #fitness #fitnessmotivation

Liquorice is a stress reliever

So I have been trying to build my Moodfit diet plan looking at all of the types of food and herbs that are good for depression, anxiety and stress.

One of the herbs was liquorice

When I think of liquorice I think of the sweets and I don’t like them but this is what it is:

So why is it good for stress, depression and anxiety?

So I discovered this new #tea found it in #holland&Barrett they are from #health&healthier they are also #organic so just made one and I have to say I was pleasantly surprised they are yummy.

The chai gives it a like spicy kick but very drinkable will def be drinking this from now one lets see if it makes me feel any different. You can learn more about the benefits of this amazing root on the link below:

https://www.indigo-herbs.co.uk/natural-health-guide/benefits/liquorice

#depression #liquorice #anxiety #digestion #health #nutriton #stress #adaptogens #fitmom #singlemom

Are you autumn ready?

I think the summer is well and truely over as there is less sun and more rain. I’ve even had to put the heating on. I’ve finally given in and went out in a woolly jumper for the first time since spring.

I love the stitch on this jumper as well as the colour, it is so comfortable and so warm as well. I also got it in a burnt yellow colour too one of the really in colours for this season.

Simple Drop sleeve turtleneck sweater

Buy now from my website Moodfit.co.uk

#fashion #fashionista #fashiontrend #fashionblogger #singlemom #affordablefashion #womensfashion #autumn #fashiontrends #autumntrends #autumncolours #fitmoms

Healthy fifteens

I am full of nostalgia at the minute one of my absolute fav buns as a child we’re fifteens. The marshmallows the crunchy biscuit but not the cherries.

I took a real craving for them the other day so I decided to see if I could make a healthy version of them so I tried and it worked they were amazing.

Ingredients:

1 cup dates, oats, nuts (1/2 pecans and 1/2 almonds)

4 weetabix

Blend in a mixer then add

1/2 cup choc chips I chose dark choc

1/2 cup nut butter I chose peanut and almond

1/2 cup maple 🍁 syrup

Scoop into a bowl and mix in some chopped nuts, choc chips as well as 2 tbsp of desiccated coconut 🥥 and chai seeds

Cut up 15 large marshmallows

2 tsp of vanilla essence

Mix in a bowl

Then spread out some baking paper, sprinkle some desiccated coconut on the sheet then at the mixture shaping it into a caterpillar shape.

Then when you have done that you roll the baking paper to make sure it is a round tube shape, use the baking paper to shape it and keep it together, put into fridge.

You can eat within half an hour and you can put some away in the freezer when you need a little treat as this will make about 30.

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HIT

So what is HIT?

It’s high intensity training where you You repeat say 4 or 5 exercises same number of reps as fast as you can then you rest and can do it again, repeat it 3 times with a rest of one minute between each set.

This is the best way to get fit, speed up your metabolism and burn fat.

In my video I have done a combo of

10 burpees

10 pike ups

10 spider lunges great for stretching too

10 squats

So to get fitter you just step up the number of each you do and also do them faster without injuring yourself.

Always remember to stretch afterwards and rehydrate.

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